There are only a handful of times in my life where I have felt that I was not in control. I mean this in a totally good way.
A little over three months ago, Stephanie and I made the decision (the most difficult of our marriage) to pack up our family and move to Texas. The most difficult part of the decision for me, was leaving my career as a teacher. It is still very difficult. I miss the students. A lot. I have learned that just because you make the right decision, it doesn’t mean life will get easier.
However, the moment that we decided to move, things started moving in a way that can only be explained as divine intervention. Stephanie will have to tell her side of the story. In a matter of two weeks we found a house to rent in Texas, received an eventually closing offer on our house in Utah, had Isla, and moved to Texas. Everything just worked out. I can’t really explain it. We have had some bumps along the way, but we both feel we are in the right place at the right time.
There are moments as a father that are unforgettable…holding your daughter the first few times is one of them. One of my very dear friends and Co-workers, told me that having a daughter would change my heart. Those words were inspired.
Not only has Isla changed my heart, but we have seen a huge change in Ian’s heart. He has taken a full time role as protector for Isla. His shy personality and sometimes hard outside have been slowly decreasing by this new responsibility of big brother. He has been given the responsibility of sitting next to Isla in the car, a responsibility that he takes very seriously. He has been kind, helpful, loving and a great example to me and all of his brothers.
Female Pronouns are Hard.
She, Her, She’s, Hers
We realized very quickly that these words have not been used in our house. Ever. No seriously. It has always been Mommy’s, Mom’s or Mommy. For 9 years these pronouns have not been used. I didn’t even think about it. Our boys are having a hard time remembering that Isla’s diaper is not his or that she not he spit up. It has been quite entertaining to listen to.
I want my daughter to grow up and be like her mother… Strong willed, opinionated, confident and caring. As a teacher, I saw so many students and teachers, specifically girls/women, who were unsure of themselves… I can’t help but think of this video.